How to Have a Loving Relationship by Learning to Love Yourself

I personally experienced the bitterness of relationship. After doing research and reading up, I experimented by focusing on myself. Doing things to love and pamper oneself may seem difficult for a person who has been using his/her energies on the other partner in a relationship. Once you get the gist of the whole reading, things started to get easier. Believe it or not. It really work wonders for me!

If you don't like the person you are, chances are high that any relationship you are in or get into will fail. In order for a relationship to flourish and to grow, a person needs not not only like themselves but also to love who they are. Loving yourself is paramount to having a successful and loving relationship.

You have a better chance to choose while you are still single than those who are married. It is better to work on things when you have a choice to do so.

The divorce rate today is higher than at any other time in history. People marry for the wrong reasons, they marry the wrong person, and more so, they marry too soon. Not only do they not know they person they marry, they often don't know themselves or even like who they are as a person. Many divorces occur because incompatibility. But how can a couple become so incompatible when they loved each enough to marry? How could a marriage that started out with such love, and perhaps still have the love, go so wrong? How can two people who perhaps still are so much for each other end up not liking each other or themselves? Often the problem lies in an area that's least expected, with ourselves. We simply don't like who we are and we strive to become who the spouse wants us to be, rather than just to be ourselves.

This can be manifested in several ways. One woman goes and buys herself an entire new wardrobe of clothing trying to look sexier for her husband. Still another spouse gives up their entire existence and becomes a virtual clone of their spouse, trying to be exactly like them in an effort to feel more wanted and loved. Another woman wants to control everything her husband does, telling him how to act, think, dress, work, who his friends are, etc. All of these relationships are doomed because the people in them simply do not love themselves.

So be fair to yourself. Love yourself first before loving others. Because you are worth it!